Being someone’s friend is actually a difficult job. It seems hard to treat others you like with respect and, you know, be there for them. That’s why shitty friends are easier to find than good friends these days!
But what if you can’t take it anymore with such truly shitty people, then please, do cut them off!
The end of any relationship is always somewhat painful and comes with some negativity or confrontation. But don’t worry much. Here are some steps for coping with this emotionally stressful time.
- Do not feel sorry so much for yourself! Every so-called step back is an opportunity to leap forward. Believe that you can get over this person, because you will. Make a list of all the reasons why you deserve to be happy.
- Know that you’re not alone on this journey. You think you’re the only one who has ever felt hurt like that? That’s not true. You will get over him/her soon.
- Get rid of everything that reminds you of this person. But you don’t have to destroy things unless the person in question was a negative force in your life.
- Have fun! Go out with friends. Anything to take your mind off of thinking.
- Go on a vacation. It doesn’t need to be far away; it can be as close and gives you a little time to yourself. But If you don’t want to spend money on a vacation, try to cook or do something you really like.
- Even if you and this bad person agreed to stay friends, cut off contact with this person for a while.
- Find a simple way to reward yourself. Pamper yourself for a bit and go for massage.
- Make new friends to forget past friends, but remember what you learned from past friends.
- Don’t blame yourself, and when you begin to regret – that will happen – just remind yourself that this was done for the better.
- Last but not least, remember that they won’t change. If you jump back into the friendship, they may seem like a great friend at first, but they will go back to their old ways. So don’t let them manipulate you. They might do this by acting like a ‘wounded puppy’ or telling you all the bad things you’ve done.
It may seem like the worst decision of your life and nothing will ever be right again, but that’s not true. It will get better. You’ll begin to think less and less of them everyday and you won’t even notice.
As my partner always says: It’ll all be okay.