It’s really very strange how one can resist tears and behave very well in the hardest hours but then someone makes you a friendly sign with a flower bouquet. That flower which was in bud only yesterday has suddenly blossomed and made you smile and feel alive.
When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. Those who are willing to be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares. Thank you my dear friend @fo2elsoto7 for being that for me and for celebrating me being alive with pink flowers. You made my day and I’m blessed to have you!
People with pain tend to be over achievers because they push themselves until the pain is screaming.
We try to survive the pain which is hard enough to deal with in the light of day. But sometimes we can’t survive the pain at night which robs us of our much-needed sleep and that can be downright exhausting.
I’m learning more about behavioural treatment for pain management because painkillers don’t help anymore to ease the pain. These therapies can help you relax or change your thinking patterns and cope with pain. This can include:
1⃣ Cognitive therapy which can help you to gain control over your pain by teaching yourself to recognize and change emotions that can make pain worse, such as anxiety, anger, and sadness.
2⃣ Progressive muscle relaxation which can ease muscle tension that may be adding to your pain.
3⃣ Deep breathing exercises which can help you to relax.
4⃣ Guided imagery which includes imagining a pleasant scene that takes your mind off your pain.
5⃣ Asking for help: if you’re in pain and you’re not getting the help you need from your doctor, feel free to switch doctors and if you can’t do this then speak up for yourself to get the treatment you need.
No one should be told that their pain isn’t real or not severe enough for treatment. You deserve to live your life as pain-free as possible.
Being someone’s friend is actually a difficult job. It seems hard to treat others you like with respect and, you know, be there for them. That’s why shitty friends are easier to find than good friends these days!
But what if you can’t take it anymore with such truly shitty people, then please, do cut them off!
The end of any relationship is always somewhat painful and comes with some negativity or confrontation. But don’t worry much. Here are some steps for coping with this emotionally stressful time.